Marriage is forever, right? And we’re forever changing, right? So, what happens when we change but we’re already married? Does or should the marriage change to? How do we and/or can we evolve as a couple?
There is the idea that as we go through life, we experience things that change us as a person. Many people think they don’t really know who they are until well into their 20s. Yet, plenty of people are still getting married before that time. There are the parents that tell their children “you’re too young to know what you want”, and what they basically mean, is that you don’t even know who you are yet. So why are people getting married before they are done growing up? Or does it even matter since we’re always evolving as people?
When you make the decision to be with someone for life, you also choose to accept them “for better or for worse”. If you’re evolving as a person, do you evolve as a couple? How can we keep from “outgrowing” our spouses? Perhaps the answer is better communication and taking time to really listen to one another. Don’t forget, that you married your best friend, and that trust and conversation will always be important.
How about you? How do you evolve as a couple? If your beliefs change, and they no longer coincide with your spouse’s, how do you communicate this?
We love the planning aspect of the wedding and making everything beautiful…but the marriage is what truly matters, so we hope you’ll join the conversation! Please feel free to leave your comments below!